When I was searching for images to use for this page, the results for “introvert” included photos of people cowering, slumping their shoulders, with expressions of trepidation on their faces, and even more often, with their faces covered.
Word art had phrases like “come out of your shell” and showed road signs contrasting the routes to “bold” and “timid.”
Introversion has many more faces than just these shallow interpretations.
You know it, and I know it, but we can easily forget it, particularly amid the noise of our often extrovert-centric world.
The world of work recognizes loud voices. It rewards people who produce immediate responses. It frowns and judges when people retreat to recharge.
Let’s face it. Despite efforts of revolutionaries like Susan Cain, there’s still a huge information gap about introversion and the quiet strengths we bring to our work.
When clients come to me, their words sound eerily similar:
- I fell into my job. It doesn’t really fit me, but I’m not sure what does, so I muddle through.
- It’s driving me crazy – I feel trapped here.
- I tell myself things like, ‘Don’t screw this up!’ or ‘You give up too easily’ or ‘Why can’t you figure this out?!’
It’s really important for you to know that you’re not alone in your worries and your doubts.
You’re in the right place if:
- You dread going to work
- You watch with suppressed envy when people glow as they talk about their work
- You vacillate wildly between blaming yourself and blaming [fill in the blank: the crappy job market, the toxic tone of your work, the oppressive weight of your responsibilities]
I’ve worked with hundreds of clients – people just like you who have been trying to fit their square pegs into round holes – and I’ve seen outcomes that are astonishing. My clients have uncovered paths they secretly knew they wanted, paths they had no idea were waiting to be recognized, and paths that allowed them to experience emotions they thought were out of reach. Emotions like joy, empowerment, fulfillment, exhilaration, and deep meaning.
We can work together using a very specific three-stage methodology that works supremely well. It’s worked for many others, and it’ll work for you, too.
To sync your quiet strengths and your work, you need to journey through 3 phases…
Phase 1: Your Inner World
This is usually the part where you get asked trite questions like “What’s your passion?” and “What did you want to do when you were growing up?”
I won’t ask those questions. I think they’re overused and shallow, and if you knew the answers and they really guided you, we would look at the landscape of the world of work and see a very different picture, one where everyone moved forward with clarity and shining purpose. We’re all much more complex than that – but not so complex that we can’t find out way through the intricacies of our inner worlds.
Here’s what I want to know about you:
- What are 3 high points and 3 low points from your professional world? Think about those stories, and during our first session, we’ll mine them for signposts to your best self. We spend substantial time capturing the tone, the language, the core dimensions of these stories, and when we’re done, you’ll have a concrete definition of you at your essence — and it’s not just about where you’ve been — the real focus is on where you’re going.
- How do you get in your own way? Like the rest of us, you have your Achilles heel, and you’re probably inadvertently self-sabotaging. Let’s find those patterns in your life so that you don’t keep tripping over them. We’ll also visit your fears and look them in the eye – which ones have merit and deserve further attention and which ones are your gremlins? When you know the answer to this one dimension of yourself…well, watch out, world. You will be powerful and effective and in your groove.
- What are your deeply held beliefs? You’re steering using some unconscious ideas about who you’re supposed to be in the world, what makes you successful, how money plays into the equation, and what other people expect of you. We’ll bring those beliefs to the surface, and you’ll have the opportunity to decide which ones you want to keep, which ones you want to tweak, and which ones you want to discard.
- What are your superpowers? You’ve got them. Even if you don’t believe they’re there, they are, and we’ll find them.
I have more questions for you, but what’s important for you to know right now is that you’ll finish this phase with a one-page document that’ll capture what you want in your next career chapter.
That one page will be your GPS as we shift into the next phase of the process.
Phase 2: Market Realities
You might end the first phase of our work together with a crystal clear leading about who you are and what lights you up, but if you don’t know where and how that will make you money, the value of that information has moved from worthless to draining because now it creates a chasm between where you are now and a yearning that you can’t fulfill.
Here’s the thing: this phase of our work together has some dips. Sometimes you’ll discover that a vision you had isn’t viable after all. You’ll be rejected. Some people might say “no” to your polite inquiries.
It’s okay. The reason I’m walking alongside you during this part of your journey is to clear out the white noise of your mind’s chatter and other people’s judgments so that you can clearly see the gems and find your way to the intersection of you and the work you’re here to do.
I’ll equip you with the tools you need to navigate this part of your journey:
- structure and scripts
- ideas and springboards for new possibilities
- a gentle nudge to step out of doubt and into exploration
You’ll finish this part of our work together with a clear definition of what’s next for you.
Phase 3: Creation
Now that you know what you want and where to earn money doing it, we’ll turn to the practical side of making it happen.
There are basically 2 routes in this phase of our journey:
- Entrepreneurial initiatives
- Job search
I work only with the latter, but I can connect you with great business development coaches if you decide to go that route.
For a job search, you’ll draft documents (your LinkedIn profile, resume and cover letter, for example), and I’ll shepherd you through these streets. Together, we’re going to launch this final phase of your journey and get you moving towards what you want most in the world: meaningful work that suits you.